I did feel like a real outsider to this community. It is, can be a very close-knit community and it's all about who you know or who you're related to, that kind of thing. And when I was growing up in Sunnyvale, some of my cousins were more involved in this community because my something I didn't mention was we didn't go to church. My mom was kind of experimenting after we moved to Sunnyvale, and she was exploring some of the local churches. And I remember as a little kid getting visitors, Japanese people would come to our house. I didn't know who they were, and they were all dressed up and they were really friendly. And they would look at me and, you know, say how cute I was. And they're very friendly, nice. A bunch of these little groups came like this, and it and I asked Mom, who are they? And they said, well, one of them was from the Japanese Christian Church that was in Palo Alto area, closest to Sunnyvale, which is similar to the Wesley United Methodist Church. There was kind of this Methodist, I believe, and I can't remember. There's another another group, too, that came from another church, all Japanese. And my mom told me later, no, we're not going to any of those churches and and she said, look, we're agnostic. And this is like I was four. I didn't know what an agnostic was. I just thought it was cool. So I can go tell people I'm agnostic. And most of the kids had no idea, Oh wow, that's really cool. I wonder what that means, they had no idea what the hell that was, but it sounded good. But I think my mom was struggling with fitting in herself, and I think she had grown up in the Buddhist church. Same with my dad. I know that because we would go to these services, you know, after so many years after your life has passed away, you have to do X number of your service, and it would be Buddhist service. But I think she felt that these churches were, and the community was too parochial and she had wanted to have a career. She had wanted to do things that women usually weren't allowed to do. And I think she felt that the community was just too closed in for her and that they gossiped about everything and all that kind of stuff. So what? So because I was not part of the churches, that was a big deal, I think because I didn't know people like my cousins had were going to go to church and they were going to the Buddhist church and they were part of different youth leagues, connected to the church or the community, the community Youth Services was a big deal, basketball, other sports, but we didn't have anything to do with that. So what it meant, though, is I didn't have some of the ties they had. And what that meant is I felt like a real outsider because I didn't know all these people. It turned out, though, that I actually did have all these ties, but it just wasn't that obvious to me. So it finally dawned on me years later that they're actually fairly significant, but it just wasn't talked about that way.
So I told you, my father's family moved out to Utah and his uncle kind of looked after his family. His uncle, my grand uncle, was named. He went by these initials, I. K. Ishimatsu. And he was a pretty big deal guy. I mean, when I started working at Yu-Ai Kai, he was referred to as the Godfather of Japantown. Or he was the outgoing godfather. The new guy was named Yosh Uchida, which the the gym at San Jose State is named after him. But he [grand uncle] was an Issei and he was a pretty big deal guy. So he had a lot of caché. He was a really unusual guy. He's pretty tall, for an Issei. And he he had his he was bald. I mean, not sure I actually shaved his head, but and he wore dark glasses. So he looked scary. I mean, really did look like The Godfather and he wasn't he was actually a pretty nice guy, but I didn't understand that he was a big deal. And he was credited with helping to get the Nisei into politics, like he after the war. He said, this is really bad. We got to get ourselves in politics, so this doesn't happen. We don't get treated like this anymore. And so he decided the Democratic Party is the party around here to be part of. So he would pass the hat and make people cough up money to send people to these fundraisers, the Democratic Party fundraisers. And he would also recruit people, Nisei, including people like Norm Mineta, Wayne Kanamoto who became a judge, people like that to be involved in politics.
And so I didn't learn all this until much later, but that whole part of that connection had been kind of lost. I'm not sure if that would have helped me or made things worse for me. I have no you know; I don't really know. But the point being is that you have this idea. I have no connections to this place. I'm an outsider. But that's not really true. And then my mom's family and their farm in Berryessa, one of the founders and the curator here [JAMsj] passed away not too long ago, Jimmy Yamaichi here. He knew my family and then I told them they're in Berryessa, you probably don't know but I you know, he said I know I know who they are, you know, your family. So what I guess what I'm trying to say to make this a little shorter here is that I had all these connections. It just wasn't that obvious. And then I started realizing a lot of these other people thought they had were outsiders but they had all these connections too. And people who were supposed to be part of the inner circle actually didn't have all these connections. But they were, you know, I mean, they started to realize it didn't really make that much difference, although people sometimes would talk like that as part of this small community to kind of put you in your place. Like, you know, you don't know this person or that person so, you know, you don't know anything. But I started to see that that was actually pretty superficial. So I, it was a challenge though, feeling, to fit in because I really did think there was a special connection you had to have some special ancestor. If you didn't know Japanese that was a problem. If you didn't know all these different customs, that was a problem, things like that. But over time, I started realizing that most Japanese Americans feel like outsiders. I mean, they all do, because that's the discussion we have now among the sanseis that most of us feel like outsiders, but if you kind of get into it more, many of them know a lot more about Japanese culture than they think they know than a lot of these people they think are insiders know.
(Interviewer) So as you were developing your identity and also your activism in the local area, you would later also become, I think, an executive director in Yu-Ai Kai. What were some of the challenges you encountered and what initiatives did you champion?
One of the big problems was that Yu-Ai Kai was going through this transformation. It was part of these kind of early grassroots nonprofit organizations that were service agents and agencies that came about in a lot of Asian American communities, you know, Japanese, Chinese, Filipino communities, too. And it was a struggle to get them going. It was mainly done by volunteers. And eventually, if they got some money, the staff were paid hardly anything. So Yu-Ai Kai was like that, too. It was a grassroots effort that there were students at San Jose State, Asians for Community Action, that weren't from the area. But they really learned that there was a need for services for the elderly because they would come to Japantown, and they used to hang out with some of the elderly people and they realized they couldn't get services from any of the other organizations around in the county, the city, because they didn't have things that would have Japanese language. They wouldn't have food that they're used to. They just weren't used to dealing with Japanese Americans at all. So they took it upon themselves to try to say, we should have an organization here to help our seniors because they need help. And they did the Mochizuki fundraising event. They started doing things like this and they started working with the Nisei, my parents' generation to do something and my parents generation's people, they saw this need because they were dealing with their own parents and realizing how hard it is and that they needed help.
The community should do something that should band together to do it. So they formed the Japanese American Community Senior Service, which later became known as Yu-Ai-Kai as this grassroots entity. And the board had like 45 board members. The reason why it had massive board is because they all represented different organizations and their auxiliaries. This is everybody. The Boy Scouts, the Girl Scouts, the Gardeners Association, the Auxiliary to the Gardeners, because back then it was like man on one side, women. And just every single group you can imagine the Community Youth Service, as well as groups you might recognize the Japanese American Citizens League, groups like that. So the point I'm just trying to say it was a very grassroots community effort. So when I became the director, it was going through this change like, well, are we going to expand or not? Are we going to stay as a small group? When we have, we keep seeing more needs and there's funding out there, but we're going to have to build this organization up. So, you know, one thing is we actually need our own building because we were using the Issei Memorial Building or the Methodist Church for the lunch program. And so that became the big issue. Are we going to raise enough money to actually build our own senior center? And that was started before I became the director. But they had all these kind of stops and starts, false starts and problems through that process of raising enough money to do it. So when I became the director that, well, we have to do it, the state gave us some money. They're saying they want the money back unless you start building this thing. And so that was my biggest challenge. Are we, we're going to really build this thing then how are we going to do it? You know, we don't have any money. So that's the biggest challenge I faced is how to take this organization that's very small, had like I can't remember how many people five, six, seven. But most of them were paid, like not even half time. You know, they work for the county they run the lunch program, stuff like that. So it was, it was a big struggle. But the main thing, just like the ACA students discovered, is that the Nisei and other people in the community really banded together because they wanted to do this. And there's some people I'll always be really grateful to who are Nisei, who when I first met them, they were kind of this is like trying to fit in. They seemed like they didn't like me, and I didn't know why they didn't like me. I realized, wow, because they always thought I was just a kid, you know, and I was pretty young.
But that's kind of how I was treated all the time. But later I learned that, no, they really did like me, but that's just how they are. Very gruff and so that they would really go to bat for us. And there were other people in the community that were very nervous about this, and they were the people who had more money and more of a status. And I think they felt really put upon by everybody. So it was a struggle to figure out how to work with them. And that's where the out being an outsider, that's where I felt some of the discomfort comes from that it's not just socially. I don't fit in like you're going to a dance, and you don't know anybody. What's more, how do you talk to these people who are really powerful and important? And, you know, all these people are telling you you can't talk to them, you know, you know, he's not going to want to talk to you. You know, they have lots of lieutenants surrounding them. So people helped me do that. And I had to do that. And some of these people, my politics was really different. There was a person who was on the Republican Party platform. I don't just mean locally. You know, this is s national platform, really conservative guy. And we had to go talk to him. And we're sitting in the waiting room and he's there with a photo of him shaking hands with Ronald Reagan and all these people, like, I don't know if this is going to work, but he really did care about seniors, too. I mean, that's what ultimately ended up becoming the thing is, like, well, I joke about it. I didn't say this to people. I said, do you know where your mom is right now? [chuckles] I didn't I didn't do that. But you get the feeling that they really were worried about their parents or some of them actually felt really bad because they could not help their parents. It might not have even been their fault because of what happened during the war. You know, their parents really suffered and now they're older. And now what can they do for them? You know, they're not in a position to provide constant companionship with friends, speaking Japanese and eating Japanese food. You know, they might have some money, but, you know, so well, give us the money. Well, we'll do it. So so we did this capital campaign that had started it, but we had to complete the campaign to raise enough money to build the building. And that's a whole other story in and of itself that it almost didn't happen. But it was kind of like the way I described it to Susan was it was kind of like running for elected office without any of the benefits because I had to go to lots of meetings, go to this club, go to that club, you know, you know, present why this is important to have this go talk to places like the United Way. Go talk to all these other organizations that have no clue what the hell you're talking about for Japanese Americans, like, oh, I like Japanese food, but they had no idea what our story was. And always feeling like you can make a terrible mistake and people will hate you or they don't get back to us. So after that, once the building was built and I was there for a while, as the director said, well, somebody else has got to do the rest, you know, figure out how to operate the place ultimately like that, because it almost did me in so.